When should courtship stop? Should it stop after marriage? After sex? Let's put it this way, there's no such thing as a fairy tale marriage-one that ends with both of you living happily ever after. There will definitely be times of sorrow, frustration or worse, infidelity. However, every cloud has a silver lining and you will also enjoy peace, joy and contentment scattered among visions of green meadow grass covered with bright and colorful flowers. You men may not see it but for us women it is something we often know all to well. You see, fairy tale endings really do happen in a relationship.
The only thing is, this often starts and ends during the courtship stage. Typically, after the sexual urge has been fulfilled, everything else falls to the wayside. So let me ask you this: is love really the only reason why two people get married? And if that's the case, are you men doing your fair share not just as the family provider but as your wife's partner-as a shoulder to cry on, as her support? So MEN, when was the last time you gave your wife a massage? While you are expected to be the provider and strength of the family, you are also expected to provide intimacy, something that while intangible often has the bigger impact.
You can express affection in words but it's often better when it's physically demonstrated. The physical closeness promotes stress reduction and will help you and your wife come together. This can start with something as simple as giving a massage. Now you can do different forms of massages, from the simple relaxing to the hard, but regardless of what form you choose make sure it's for a specific purpose. What I mean is if your sex life is waning because of one reason or another try giving your wife an erotic massage. This way not only will you re-enforce the intimacy between you two but it may just rekindle your suppressed emotions and burning passion for one another.
And it doesn't stop there. Try to remember how your wife looked before you married her? Does she look the same now as she did back then? Regardless of how she looks now, she is the same woman you desired before right? So after a hot and steamy night of massage and love making, treat her to a day in a spa and salon for a total make over. If you give you car a wash almost everyday and overhaul it once in a while, more so with your wife who is always there for you. Outer beauty can be augmented by physical beauty-why not hit the gym together? If you prefer why not have the two of you go to a sauna together.
The two of you together in a steamy room, close to one another, almost naked bodies wrapped in white towels and glistening with wetness, paints a pretty stimulating picture don't you think? And in this scenario let your wife lean against you while you gently massage her neck, shoulders and back, all the while whispering sweet words in her ear-even if you're just reminiscing about the past. These simple and doable gestures of love is an effective way to reawaken and rekindle your wife's love for you. In fact these simple gestures are more powerful than words because they are physically felt, seen and thus easily remembered.
Imagine getting all of these results from a such a simple thing as a massage-a massaged infused with your desire to satisfy your wife and make her happy and content. More importantly, she will again experience those feelings of affection, importance, and courtship that she felt when she first fell in love with you! So court your wife all over again by starting with a simple massage and make her fall in love with you all over again!
